Author, speaker and consultant on high performance human achievement DenisWaitley stated that there are 3 rules to turn your negative anxiety into positive success. Incorporate these rules and take action today to let go of your stress.

  1. Accept the unchangeable.

Everything that has happened in your life to this minute is unchangeable. It’s history. The greatest waste of energy is looking back at missed opportunities and lamenting past events.

Grudge collecting, getting even, harbouring ill will and vengeful thinking do no good. Success is the only acceptable form of revenge.

By forgiving your trespassers—whoever or whatever they are—you become free to concentrate on going forward with your life and succeeding in spite of those detractors. You will live a rewarding and fulfilling life. Your enemies, on the other hand, will forever wonder how you went on to become so successful without them and in the shadow of their doubts.

Action idea: Write down on a sheet of paper things that happened in the past that bother you. Now crumple the paper into a ball and throw it. Really. This symbolizes letting go of past misfortunes.

  1. Change the changeable.

Change your reaction to what others say and do, and you can control your own thoughts and actions by dwelling on desired results instead of the penalties of failure.

The only real control you have in life is your immediate thought and action, and because most of what we do is a reflex—a subconscious habit—it’s wise not to act on emotional impulse. In personal relations, it is better to wait a moment until reason has the opportunity to compete with your emotions. 

Action idea: Write down one thing you will do tomorrow to help you relax more during and after a stressful day.

  1. Avoid the unacceptable.

Go out of your way to get out of the way of intolerable or perilous behaviours and environments.

Take these examples: When people tailgate you on the freeway, change lanes. When there are loud, obnoxious people next to you at a restaurant, change tables or move locations, just excuse yourself and walk away.

Always be on the alert for negative situations that can be dangerous to your health, personal safety, financial speculation and emotional relationships.

Action idea: What is one unacceptable habit you or others have that you will avoid starting tomorrow?


About the Author

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Denis Waitley has inspired, informed, challenged, entertained audiences for over 30 years, from multi-national corporations such as Microsoft, Apple, Dell, Mercedes-Benz, and Toyota, to the locker rooms of Olympic athletes, NASA astronauts and Fortune 500 executives.

Growing up in a time during the crisis of World War II, an alcoholic father who left the family when he was 9, and where finances were non-existent, his grandmother remained one of the few positive influences in his life. Today, far from the chaos in his childhood, Denis created a life based on the belief that the power of the mind can overcome almost any obstacle.

His words of wisdom have been recorded in best-selling books and over 10 million audio programs such as “The Psychology of Winning” and “Seeds of Greatness,” which have been translated in 14 languages and distributed around the world.

As one of the most listened-to voices on personal and career success, don’t miss the chance to meet Denis Waitley LIVE at National Achievers Congress 2016 Malaysia at One World Hotel, Petaling Jaya, who will be joined by a panel of 6 speakers.



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